Wednesday, February 2, 2011

eHarmony Review

eHarmony is one of the more popular online dating sites and rightfully so. It is the only one of its kind to feature a patented personality matching system based on 29 different dimensions of compatibility. This highly successful and unique program was formulated by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, a doctorate in psychology who has published 9 books about relationships and boasts over 30 years of experience counseling couples in order to help them build lasting, healthy relationships.

The patented 29 Dimensions of Compatibility and eHarmony's matching services are constructed based upon responses to an extensive questionnaire that users are required to complete prior to becoming an official eHarmony member. The questionnaire measures personality traits such as emotional temperament, and adaptability, among others. The matching system also measures values and relationship skills such as conflict resolution. In other words, eHarmony can be considered more of a virtual matchmaker as opposed to some of the other online dating websites available.

One of the many features I really appreciate about eHarmony is the ability to remain somewhat anonymous and also the amount of time I save. Unlike other online dating sites, eHarmony only shows my profile to my matches, instead of making my profile publicly available to anyone at any time. The site also allows me to save time because I am only "introduced" to matches who are deemed compatible with me based on the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility. This alleviates the hassle of progressing through a relationship only to find out later that we are incompatible as a couple, so I love that I am only matched with those I could potentially have a long-term relationship with.

The "My Preferences" section of my profile allows me to specify whether or not I would be willing to be matched with someone who smokes, or drinks, etc. Users can choose how to communicate with their matches, either through a "guided communication" process or an "open communication" process which consists of directly sending their matches emails and bypassing the guided communication process altogether. The guided communication process allows the users to send their matches multiple choice questions, open-ended questions, and even a list called "must haves" and "can't stands". When completing their profiles, users choose 10 personality traits each that they "must have" in a partner and those traits that they "can't stand". This is actually a lot more difficult to do than you might think, but it also forces you to focus on what is most important to you in a potential relationship partner.

A new feature that has recently been added to eHarmony is their "Something to Talk About" feature which asks users to pick his or her favorite sports teams, foods, etc. I find this to be particularly helpful and could potentially almost eliminate any awkwardness in the initial stages of dating.

Users are always allowed to review their matches for free and are offered the opportunity to participate in a premium personality test worth over $40! eHarmony also occasionally offers a "Free Communication Weekend" where users can communicate with their matches for free over a specific weekend. It's a great, no-pressure way for users to test the site out.

With hundreds of success stories, countless commercials, and years of experience, eHarmony seems like a legitimate way to meet quality singles who are highly compatible with each other. Upon exploring the site, I am hopeful that I will be able to find someone who I am compatible with. Check back soon for more updates on my progress!


East Carolina Girl

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